When does concern become obsession -DMR

The point of this blog is very simple.
At times you have friends that think that by being honest with you and putting their nose in your business is what being a friend is about.
Well it gets to a point where the line is crossed. A friend is one that when you fall will say "its ok I'm here to help you get up." Not one that will say "I told you that was gonna happen. You should've listened to me."

Its fine to want to be there for a person if you don't want to see them hurt. Understandable. However, some people take it too far. Friends think that tough love is fine. Throwing things in your face when you are down, they think is going to help you be strong and help you get over it. Well it doesn't. People heal differently. And maybe that person just needs someone to be there and listen to them. Not to be broken down even more.

Now when is it concern and when is it obsession?
Concern is when you give the person your point of view and simple advice, and step off.
Either they take it or not. We still have to learn our own way. You can't expect people to go by what your are saying just because you are the friend. Especially when not everyone knows full details on everything. Its easy to judge from the outside.

Now obsession is taking it a little too far. It's trying to MAKE the person do as you say.
At times everyone has a friend or two that for some reason doesn't approve anything and everything in your life.
Someone who doesn't like who you are dating, speaking to, are friends with etc.
I once had a friend years ago. That for some reason every guy I was getting to know, dating or even friends with, was a loser, a lame, a waste of time- according to my friend.

He had a problem with every guy I knew. None of them were good enough for me. They were going to treat me like shyt in the long run etc etc.
I began to realize the problem wasn't these people. The problem was my friend.
Why didn't he like anybody that entered my life? [[A little weird and maybe a bit obsessed if you ask me]]

We all have a friend that we feel we can trust and we go to with our problems, and we turn to when we are mad and sad and even with the happy times.
But if everytime you want to brag about your good times they gonna shut you down and be bothered by it, then I don't need to be surrounded by those people.

"Get away from hateful people, only deal with loved ones." -NAS

Kisses
--MRZ ENDY